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Tuesday, January 6, 2015

A Letter to my 'Would be' son

Hello Son-in-future,

I do not know the exact time for when you will be reading this letter. I do not know how the world around you would have evolved by then. For now, your mother is 22, clueless about where her life is dragging her along. Perhaps to an ambitious world, I am presently spending my days in a beautiful world that bears some stained humanity with occasional happiness and sorrow, just like a day you are going to feel in your twenties.


As I am penning this letter on my father’s laptop, perhaps you might be reading the message on your iPhone or whatever the better gadgets was invented then.For me, world has changed drastically in a decade.  I miss cartoon network. I miss Poppins. I miss Mario. 

Oh sorry you might not know them.


However, the purpose of this letter is not to enlighten you about cartoon series, or to bore you about lives of my days, but to tell you how I wish my son should be like. And how I wish every son around me could be like.

Baby, there are going to be many Women in your life. As your Girlfriend, your Wife, or your sister, perhaps a best friend forever or your daughter and even if you chose to be a Bachelor, you and like any other creature will have a mother who is woman.

Respect them.


Your mom was not sent to Earth on a mission for keep doing all your domestic chores all through her life . Learn to wash your clothes by yourself. Take efforts to lift that plate after Dinner and walk up to the kitchen sink, these small deeds will make her smile.Do not ask her, “How does me doing things, affect you? “. It does. It affects her motherhood. Before you  hurt her, For once look through her eyes, Place yourself in her shoes, I am sure you will have a different perspective then.

You are NOT always right. She has an experience of life few decades more than you. And you always know experience make a (Wo) man perfect. For you have always had to lose the first set of games on your Xbox multiple times before you mastered them. She is a better player in the game of Life.
Let the hands that once protected you, hold yours for protection some day. Never abandon her.

Talking of other women in your life, do not worry. It is not difficult to understand Women. All it takes is to ask her in the language of love.

And love, It is okay to fall in love. It is also okay to go through a heart break. However that does not make every girl disloyal. Do not blame anyone for your mistakes. Have Patience. Love does come back to you. It has to.And if it comes back to you, do not hesitate. Tell her that you love her. For things need to be said, Life is not about regrets. Love her, propose her and marry her and do not wait till I tell you to register on a matrimonial website.


And then about your wife, she is not your responsibility and she wasn't married to you to lessen your mom’s burden at household chores. She wasn't married to you to dry the towel that you throw away after you bath. She has her life. You do not possess her. Let her be alongside you and not behind you. Let her dream, and support her to fulfill them. Love her.

Never sell yourself for I have not raised you to be sold at a bright lit ceremony called marriage in exchange of an expensive four wheeler.  Salary does matter, but son, Character matters more.

Respect Womanhood. If you act, your sons will, your friends will and eventually the society will. Perhaps, you cannot change the world, but you can change yourself.

Every Lady menstruates. Your mother does, your wife will and your daughter will. It is not something that needs to be hidden from you. Support her during those days. Boy it’s no easy to live a normal life for a week every month whilst you know you are bleeding inside your pants. She can be touched.

Moreover, Never Judge a girl on the basis of her attire.  Any day. She has the right to decide how to ornament her body. If she is eve teased, molested, or raped, she is NOT at fault.
You do not have to blame the government, or the system, or the society for being passive. They are not the direct cause of a rape, individuals make a society. If she is a victim, support her, else protect her from being a victim, moreover you please do not make her a victim.

Love your country. If you can’t be at the borders fighting for the nation, at least protect the peace within the country. Do not overestimate you religion or underestimate someone else’s faith.
Do not take things for granted. The foot path or the drains have not been constructed by your father so that you can make it your private property. Learn to hold it for few minutes until you reach home or a toilet. It is Possible. Your sister does that most of the time.

And last but not the least, Boys can cry.  Men shouldn't always tighten their fist, but they should learn to let it loose to wipe tears.
Smile.


 With Love,
Your mom-in-future.
    

25 comments:

  1. only if all the gonna be moms insist their gonna be children about humanity and good virtues, this world would change for good.
    as always applause for your outspoken post. :)

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  2. I agree with DK, if every woman raises her son with these values, India will be so much better for it.

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    1. Thanks CC . Definitely , We should stop being narrow minded, rather than telling daughter how to behave, I guess we should also start the same with our sons

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  3. Nice one. May it get featured in every school diary like the letter by Abraham Lincon.

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    1. Thank you Rahul . If only it did, reading it just wont help, one should be taught to practice it

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  4. A perfect lesson which every mom wants their son to learn n always keep it in heart

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    1. Thank you Vicky . Glad you found it perfect :)

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  5. I wish and hope every one reads this letter not just your to be son, as it is bery important for the men to start respecting and have such values...

    Bikram's

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    1. Thanks Bikram . I just rote it in a view point such that sons turn into men, and as we say, charity always begins at home

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  6. Loved it. P.S- I wished you had addressed it to your future son, instead of s-in-law.
    On the other hand, you were anticipating and welcoming a girl child in your life - so, I guess you did make a vital point there too.
    Keep it up.

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    1. Thank you Sweety . It is addressed to my son. Its just that I have addressed it to my son to be born sometime in future. You comment did make me think, will it make any difference it as addressed to my son-in-law.. not sure.

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  7. Really your message admired me and even admire the other peoples thinking. Hope everyone has such a thinking.

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  8. Its not admire its influence really an awsm ' I will not call it as an letter but its an imp message ' .

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    1. Thanks a Lot :) I wish it influences every one who reads,and that influences works on them in practice too

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  9. The values sought to be instilled are admirable and apply to all young men

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  10. Take efforts to lift that plate after Dinner and walk up to the kitchen sink..... something every mother should teach their children.

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    1. Exactly, and if such small thing are taught right in their childhood, there is more room then for more virtues to be learnt

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  11. Beautiful. All future sons should read this.

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  12. Ah! Quite an interesting letter...hope u have one for ur daughter to be as well

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  13. Excellent letter,
    Best wishes
    Krishna

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  14. Your never showed me this for proof read.......nevertheless an awesome one, like always

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  15. Loved it and your writings keep me hooked,I always keep clicking on next one after the other... Good luck there!! Mumbai Madrasi :)

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